Expectations

We use these lines quite often - "I didn't expect you to...", "I expected better..", "This isnt what i wanted..".

The main reason why we end up getting hurt is because we expect. We hope that things will work out in a certain fashion. Our happiness or satisfaction, depends on that outcome. What we're really doing is putting ourselves out there..big time. Making ourselves vulnerable. Ive always had this kinda problem. Ive expected things to be great or people to behave in a certain way. Which means i cared. Half of the times ive been hurt and the other half its been worth it.

So the main question is how do u balance this?? You could stop expecting and just take care of everything yourself. But then you wouldn't have real friends or ever fall in love. You would miss out on all the good stuff and definitely the bad things too..... Cause this works both ways.

Ive said this to myself lotsa times - "youve been such a fool. Wat were u thinking? He/She is not even thinking on the same lines as you. SERIOUSLY? Wow.....waste of your time..." :) Lot of my friends would describe me as an emotional person. Some would call me passionate. MANY would say, ive got a bit of temper. That's different ways of saying i expect or i care..coz it wouldnt be any of these if i didnt.

So u do need to expect. And hope. Cross your fingers and pray sometimes. But uve gotta know wen its worth it. Wen the other person can do the same for u. Tats wen u can put yourself out there. Tats wen it works all right. :)

Again ive put in some random thoughts, sitting in my head. Hope u can identify with this. Signing off.